Monday, March 14

Today's letter to the editor:

Here's what I sent to the editor of my local paper:

I fail to understand why the government is involved in marriage at all – gay, straight, or otherwise. Marriage is a spiritual union and government is not a spiritual organization. Let the Church marry people, and let the elected government set aside tax and other public benefits for those who choose to make a permanent family, regardless of the sex of its members. How is the government in a position to dictate who is a family and who is not?

As a straight person, I make this appeal for myself, as well. When I’m very old and the only person left who really loves me is my best friend, that’s who I would want to be my family. Because neither of us is homosexual, we wouldn’t seek marriage, but we would want to be a family. In effect, she’s the one I trust to decide what treatment I get in the event I arrive unconscious in an emergency room. This selection is not something I need to have defined by marriage.

Government should remove itself from the perceived moral part of the equation by eliminating marriage licenses altogether and replacing them with family licenses. Families would then be the permanent institution, dissolvable only by the equivalent of divorce, and with all the benefits of the current government-licensed marriage.

In this way, government doesn’t have to concern itself with the sexuality or gender of anyone in a family, the Church doesn’t have to approve of the government’s position on marriage, the Church doesn’t have to marry anyone it doesn’t want to marry, and people who want to be families can be families.

11 comments:

Allie#3ga said...

i love you more right now than i did 5 minutes ago. and i totally adored you then. you impress me everyday stace.

JennySue said...

Right on sistah! I made much the same observation to the local zoo several years back regarding their membership options. That I did not appreciate their limited choices and would prefer - since I'm the one shelling out the bucks - to define my own household. I must not have been the only one - cause now they offer that option. Keep on keepin on - it does matter. Brings to mind one of my favorite quotes by Margaret Mead :

"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, dedicated citizens can change the world. Indeed, it's the only thing that ever has."

christ*el #3tx said...

you have the luckiest best friend ever.


now i am even more truly honored that you call me "friend"

Mike said...

Tasty, that makes way too much sense to ever become a law.

Nancy said...

I don't want to stir the pot here, and though I strongly agree that marriage is a spiritual matter between a couple, I think it is first a civil matter, based on ancient laws of ownership. I'd like to see the church stay out of it unless a couple chooses to state their vows inside some form of religious expression. Just my two cents...

I very much like your ideas regarding redefining a family. This would make sense and be such an efficient way for people to care for each other...kind of like the communes of the sixties!!!

Tasty said...

Nancy, darlin'. Please stir the pot whenever you like!!!!

Spicy Cauldron said...

Lady, I think as a gay man that you've hit the nail on the head in many respects. Unfortunately, there are many evangelicals out there whose mission is to intercept the lives of people like myself and my partner of the past seven years; they seek to destroy our union, illegitimise our love and condemn us, one assumes, to ghetto lives lived in the twilight zone. To hell with 'me I say. Extremists of all kinds leave me alternately cold as ice and angry as a superheated volcano. Where is the Christ in their version of Christian? x

Tasty said...

Spicy, thank you SO, so much for visiting and for your comments! I love new people and I appreciate you participating in the discussion. I meant every word I typed! Would it surprise you wildly to find out that I'm an evangelical Christian?

Susan said...

Well said

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